Author Archives: Robin

Feeling GUILTY for feeling GOOD.

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In Fiona McIntosh’s novel, Blood and Memory, on surviving an awful trauma in which her newly married husband was brutally killed, the character, Ylena, says to the priestly Brother Jakub,
“Today, for the first time since [the trauma] … I am pleased to be alive. I catch myself smiling, and I feel almost guilty.”
To which Father Jakub replies,
“You mustn’t… This is the human spirit, child, restoring itself. It is how we heal; how we go on and deal with life which can be so ugly sometimes. Let your spirit soar when it is of a mind to. Trust it, for it means you have found hope again. Hope is a powerful weapon.”

Fiona McIntosh.

 

Making the “Correct” Decision

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We need to accept the fact that there may often be no ideal decision.
What matters most is not the choice itself but the reason behind the choice.
If we choose something out of fear, the result of our action may be unsatisfactory and unstable; if we choose in faith, the outcome of our action will probably take us in the direction we need to go, however haltingly.”

– Caroline Myss.

Diagnosis

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“Then the diagnostic team come in an’ diagnozzles the whole shebang!
‘Diagnostic’? Lessee – agnostic means, ‘one what don’t know’ an’ di is a Greek prefix denotin’ twofold – so the ‘di-agnostic team’ don’t know twice as much as an ordinary agnostic … right?”

Pogo (1966).

The Blessing of Tears

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“Heaven knows we need never be ashamed of our tears for they are the rain upon the blinding dust of earth overlying our hard hearts.”

Charles Dickens (in Great Expectations).

Friends

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“We give thanks for our friends.
Our dear friends.
We anger each other.
We share this sad earth, this tender life, this precious time.
Such richness. Such wildness.
Together we are blown about.
Together we are dragged along.
All this delight.
All this suffering.
All this forgiving life.
We hold it together.

Amen. ”

–  Michael Leunig. 

Bereavement

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“Once we accept that we are going to lose something, something new comes along. That is the way bereavement works. This is reality, not consolation; but we forget that.”

– Marie de Hennezel, in her book, “The warmth of the heart prevents your body from rusting”. 

Gratitude & Resilience

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“There are two things you need in order to live and cope well in spite of all of Life’s adversities: gratitude and resilience.”

– Glenda’s Dictum.