Category Archives: Kingsway Counselling Clinic


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“Prayer is a paper ship of wakefulness on the stream of worldly weariness”.

– Peter Hoeg. 

A Certain Person

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“We have an illusion that a certain time, a certain place, a certain person is the only way. Without it or them, we are lost.

It is not true. Impermanence teaches us this. There is no one thing to hold on to.”

– Natalie Goldberg, in Long Quiet Highway.

One-way Relationships

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Today, whilst reflecting on an intimate relationship that had ended against her will and control, one of my patients (who gave me permission to quote her) said,

“I’ve realized, you can’t develop a relationship one-way”.

How many of us have realized that too, or accepted that yet… ?

Your Life Plan?

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“Doesn’t everything die at last and too soon?

Tell me, what is it you plan to do

with your one wild and precious life?”


– Mary Oliver. 

Are you being Cleared Out?

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“This being human is a guest-house

Every morning a new arrival.


A joy, a depression, a meanness,

some momentary awareness comes

as an unexpected visitor.


Welcome and entertain them all!

Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows,

who violently sweep your house

empty of its furniture,


still treat each guest honourably.

He may be clearing you

out for some new delight.


The dark thought, the shame, the malice,

meet them at the door laughing,

and invite them in.


Be grateful for whoever comes,

because each has been sent

as a guide from beyond.”



– RumiThe Guest-House.

Changing the World

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“We must become the changes we want to see in the world”.

– Mahatma Ghandi


“Unless someone like you cares a lot, it’s not going to happen, it’s not”.

– Dr Suess – from The Lorax.


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“A problem is a stepping stone to a higher spiritual level”.

Janice Dommisse; in conversation.


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“Death is the unknown in which all of us lived before birth.”

Alan Watts in The Wisdom of Insecurity.

The Meaning of Life?

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“When you realise that you live in, that indeed you are this moment, now, and no other, you must relax and taste to the full, whether it be pleasure or pain. At once it becomes obvious why this universe exists … The whole problem of justifying nature, of trying to make life mean something in terms of its future, disappears utterly. Obviously it all exists for this moment. It is a dance, and when you are dancing you are not intent on getting somewhere. You go round and round, but not under the illusion that you are pursuing something, or fleeing from the jaws of hell. The meaning and purpose of dancing is the dance.”

Alan Watts in The Wisdom of Insecurity

The Years of Parenting

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“While the days of parenting may seem so long, the years are so short.”

Daniel J. Siegel.

Your True Family

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“The bond that links your true family is not one of blood,
but of respect and joy in each other’s life.
Rarely do members of one family grow up under the same roof.”

Richard Bach.

Achieving Happiness

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I saw a patient today who, after some months of first struggling with, and now getting the better of, depresssion, said,

“I realise now that happiness is MY responsibility”.

Being grown-up

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‘By the time it came to the edge of the Forest the stream had grown up, so that it was almost a river, and, being grown-up, it did not run and jump and sparkle along as it used to do when it was younger, but moved more slowly. For it knew now where it was going, and it said to itself, “There is no hurry. We shall get there some day.” But all the little streams higher up in the Forest went this way and that, quickly, eagerly, having so much to find out before it was too late.’

A.A. Milne. (from Winnie the Pooh).

Three Little Words

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“When I say, ‘I love you’, do I come with a full bowl to be shared, or an empty bowl
to be filled?”
Old Chinese Proverb.